Well, the one thing to remember is that holidaying is more about having a break from home than visiting as much as possible as quick as possible, which is the norm for most people.
With a lupus sufferer your routine may well be the same as at home, getting up late and lazing around until lunch and then looking to do something that is not too tiring. In fact you may not feel like you are actually on holiday until you get out of your room/apartment, which will feel frustrating at times, but you know, just go with the flow.
One of the key factors to a good holiday with a lupus sufferer boils down to one simple word KISS – Keep It Simple Stupid. So cancel the tandem parachute drop and the white water rafting, and just enjoy the time together doing whatever is manageable.